We did it!
You survived the Raising Boys Course!
Now What?????
Let’s raise up some mighty young warriors for God’s Kingdom…
#1: Remember the Core Desires
A boy wants a…
Battle to fight, An Adventure to live, and A Beauty to rescue
#2: Remember His Core Need...
VALIDATION
(A boy will find something or someone to “prove” his masculinity. Will you parent him in such a way that he finds this in God as Father?)
#3: A Boy’s Brain
Spatial more than Relational
(A boy tends to analyze and explore more than emote or relate. Help him express his feelings.)
#4: Boys and Anger
A major and familiar emotion for boys is anger. Some retreat with it (go passive/implode) while others act out/explode with it. It is a primary emotion for the warrior/lover heart…teach him to express it well.
#5: Dealing with Disappointment and Hardship
Parent in such a way to acknowledge failure and hardship. Help him interpret this as a primary way that God fathers and initiates him as a man.
#6: The Early Years
The boyhood years are a time of blessing and validation. He begins to ask the question, “Do I have what it takes?” These are the years to notice him, affirm him, and create healthy boundaries for him.
#7: The Teen Years
Hard work and adventure are two key words for these years. He needs to test and prove his masculinity through both of these avenues. Plan adventures for him to experience risk and danger. Plan work for him to experience success and failure.
#8: Moms and Boys
He needs your tender, nurturing heart. You are his first love and the model of the feminine heart. Show him how to treat a woman well. And know that your job is to work yourself out of a job…empower him and release him.
#9: Dads and Boys
You are a primary figure in his life. You provide framework for relating to God as Father. You have the power to validate/bless or wound/curse. Spend time with him, talk to him, and walk him through initiation markers in life.
#10: Boys and Sex
Provide a healthy framework and understanding of his sexuality through modeling it and talking about it. Boys will isolate in this area…pursue and initiate conversation. The first and ongoing step is to know YOUR sexual story and let God father you/heal you.
#11: Raise a Warrior and Lover of God
Enjoy these years…and pray through these years. You have been given an honor. You have been entrusted with a warrior for God’s Kingdom. There is no greater influence on his life than you, Mom…than you, Dad. Rise up, O Warrior-Parents!!
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